Hey there, Reader
There is a lot of controversy around porn and erotic media, especially during No Nut November! But I believe there are plenty of positives.
Before becoming a Sex Coach, I had questions that you might also have. Questions like: Is porn always bad or can it be consumed in a healthy way? Can porn enhance relationship intimacy rather than diminish or even destroy it?
The short answer to questions like these is Yes. There are positives to porn and erotic media. Yes, it can be consumed in healthy ways. Yes, it really can be a tool that enhances relationships.
When it's consumed mindfully and intentionally, erotic media, which includes porn and sex in movies and tv, can serve as a valuable resource for sexual exploration and education.
Erotic media can also offer a way to discover desires and fantasies in a private, low-risk setting. For example, imagine a couple who is just getting curious about opening their relationship. They can start by watching erotic media together and pretending these performers are in the same room with them.
For those who want to explore fantasies that feel taboo, watching erotic media or reading erotic stories can be a low-stakes way to privately and safely explore them!
Here are some ways to start creating a healthy and intentional relationship around erotic media:
- Give yourself a time limit for searching and watching.
- Reflect compassionately about why you want to watch or consume erotic media
- If you are partnered, have open conversations about consuming erotic media
- If you are curious about learning new skills, are there other resources you can view or learn from?
Finally, an excellent resource for all of this is Ethical porn, which is adult content created with consent, transparency, and fair treatment of everyone involved. Ethical porn strives to create real world representations of sexual experiences, celebrating diversity in bodies, orientations, and kinks while breaking away from unrealistic and damaging stereotypes.
When consumed thoughtfully, erotic media can empower you to understand your body and your sexuality in deeper and more accepting ways.
You just might realize that your preferences are totally ok, which leads to more sexual confidence and fulfillment.
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